((((((((((((( Bowzz )))))))))))))))

Those kinds of feelings are so strong and hard to get rid of for sure. Do these feelings come from a low self esteem or were they born of people actually leaving you throughout your life?

Regardless of what brings those feelings on for you, I wonder if some self esteem boosting might help you? I know for myself, when I worked on my low self esteem, it helped in a multitude of things...from lessening my depression, to having more faith in myself, feeling better about where I was in my life and finding the strength to make my life what I wanted to make of it without expecting others to help me with it.

Even if you "get used" to people leaving and expecting it at every turn, instead of preparing yourself for it, you've pretty much set yourself up for the negative side of relationships....does that make sense? I mean, it's one thing to realize that changes happen, people come and go through our lives, but to actually expect it to happen all the time can be pretty hard to live with as a constant feeling/thought. What it does is to set the tone in your mind that things won't last so you end up not really enjoying the here and now. It's almost like you are setting yourself or your relationship up to fail before it has a chance to succeed for whatever length of time it goes on for.

I guess what I'm trying to say is that by trying to change the way we perceive happenings in our lives, we can lessen the anxiety and possibly even the chance that something will happen. I know it's not an easy thing to do, but it's not impossible

Don't know if what I said makes much sense or is helpful at all. Just know that I care and hope things work out for you my friend!


sabby