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Thank you all for your support. Sometimes I ask for the impossible. I guess I really did want someone to come and "magically" whisk away the horror and the memory. No one can do that for me. I have come all the way from not being able to ask anyone to support me to a place where I ask more than is humanly possible. I'm sure I'll find the middle place someday.
I'm still so shocked and my littles keep repeating themselves to me about it. One time when I miscarried my only child was about 3 1/2 years old and for several days after our loss she kept coming up to me and saying, "I'm sorry your baby died mommy". After about the 12th time it got really hard to keep on saying, "I know you are honey, mommy will be ok soon, I'm just sad today." It was the old salt in a wound routine. But someone had told me when a little child is trying to get through something hard they keep repeating it until they can finish processing it and that they have to keep repeating it. So, I managed to keep reassuring her even though it was hard to do that when I was feeling so sad anyway. So, I'm trying again to remember that my little alts need to repeat things until they can work them out and that I must NOT suppress them like I used to do, I have to let them work out the pain the best they can. sorry if that took too long to say,
All of you are so kind, thank you for helping me and my scared littles begin to get through this rough patch.
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