So, my BF and I just got into a "discussion" because I said "no" to the question of whether or not I wanted a backrub (which usually means he wants sex). Immediately he started tearing up and said, "Ok, it's ok". Well, obviously it wasn't or he wouldn't have gotten upset.

Keep in mind, I NEVER say no, usually I am one to give in just to try to keep an argument away. For the first time in a VERY long time I said no and it was as though I was in trouble. I never should have said no. I just should have given in. I feel like dirt right now because of this. Growing up I could never say no and he is the one person I should say no to and feel ok about it.

I know he needs sex more than I do, but I should be able to say no once in a while, right??? I could go years without...literally, but he can't go a few days without.

I am sitting in my room right now and he is in the living room. He just came in and was sort of playing, but I am not in the mood for it. I feel like I did something wrong. We talked before and he told me that he WANTS me to say no if I don't want to do something, but when I do this is what happens.

I am at a total loss. I have NO clue where to go from here. Do I just go out into the living room like nothing happened? Do I just ignore him? I feel like no matter what I do it isn't going to make ME feel better.

Anyone have any ideas???

Thanks,
BJ