Earthmama, One of the things that helped me not to use when I had cravings or was dealing with stress was my knowing how much damage drugs had already done to me and being "mad as heck" about it! Like being an ex-smoker...you have to really hate it and what it did to you or else it's going to slowly work it's way back into your life...(give it an inch, and it'll become a ruler) My dad was married six or seven times (I lost track) he once told me something about divorce that I thought was insightful because it applies to a lot of things we let into our lives that hurt us. He said, "you've got to get to the point where you say to yourself "that b#@*%" if you're not there, you might as well try to resolve it" lol...sorry i rambled on, hope this helps you