BJ, I have the exact same problem and my husband does the same wording of it. I get so tired of feeling pressured. I would love a backrub, but JUST the rub - it never goes that way though. If I want one, I have to give the other.

You did nothing wrong. If you're not in the mood, or whatever reason, that should be okay. I applaud you for standing up for yourself. Please don't let him upset you.

Mary Alice