Jen, Here in MN we have the best help! There is such thing called divisonary work program known as DWP. You can google it. The system in hennepin county pays yor rent,gas,food,clothes,etc.. for 4 months to get you on your feet while looking for a job. They even pay for child care. It is not considered your 5 yr welfare allowance. I was living in SC and moved back to MN and they helped me or us get on our feet. Florida, South Carolina is such a bad place to be in if you need help! Wish you could come here. Sorry You feel like a not so good parent right now. Me I go in streaks one week I feel like an excellent parent and the next I doubt myself. My kids are almost 5 boy and 19 month girl. I am 38. Married but feel single. Hubby doesn;t pull his weight with parenting.