I don't know how to help or if I should. This is my first long relationship, I lack a lot of answers.

He and I have been together for a couple of years and he was only financially stable for the first little while. He quit his job and invested his time to a career he knows only a small percentage of people can make a living at. He was financially relying on another person at that time to pay ALL of his bills. Then...I took over the bills, nothing ever changed for him and he went from one idea to another. They were fine ideas, but he never stuck with one and he seemed a little delusional at times.

I took a few months away from him and at that time he relied on his ex-girlfriend for financial help, which included letting her move in with him, which allowed her to indulge in the idea that they would get back together.

He and I started to try to have something again, which meant that took over the rent payment (for a place I wasn't living) and she moved out. After a few months I realized it was hurting me financially far too much to do this. I stopped paying it, he didn't rely/couldn't rely on the ex for the money (she continues to pay his car insurance and cell phone bill to this day), he fell behind on rent and is being kicked out. He now feels that his only option is to live with me.

I have two jobs, one is as a live-in health aide. He would be staying IN someone else's home with me. Eating someone else's food, etc. etc. I think it's a bad idea, I feel like I need my own space and it would be too frustrating to deal with him, my job, my other job, school work, and trying to relax.

I know this isn't his ideal, I just wish he was a more realistic person. He never sees just how nutty he can be. He thought that if he could stretch the rent problem another month that he could go to a writer's conference, get a deal, and *bam*! magic, everything is solved. He has written a little bit before, never a book. He had a poem published once in high school I believe. He just started writing a book less than a month ago.

Am I tragically drawn to an unstable man?

Would it be wise to let him move in only with the mutual understanding that he is to get a paying job, stick with it, and move out in three to four weeks?

**also he just called me and will be asking his father for a temporary loan. He doesn't know if his dad will do it. My boyfriend is 29 years old with a bachelors in psychology...*