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Originally Posted by Lenny
At this point I don't think it is tragic DontSayIt...but I think it could very well be..especially for him...
There is a fine line between loving aid and enabeling...He has seemed to get folks to support his dreams as children do...The sooner he begins to support himself the better he will feel about himself and the more sincere his effection for you or another will be...right now that effection seems based upon what usefullness anyone is to him..
BTW,,,a great short story would be based upon how he found a way to "grow up"...
With care,
Lenny
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I agree with MP and also with Lenny here. I have some more thoughts on this too.
It could be said that your boyfriend is looking for a sugar mama, a patron. You cannot be that for him and that is okay.
Money is tight and there aren't probably any helpful patrons available for a beginning writer. A sugar mama might be a different story but they are going to expect something back from him in return, and this is something he needs to go through on his own, if he is headed that direction.
You can't be his sugar mama or patron, you don't want to be. You want to be in a relationship with an adult man who has his own money.
He could choose to see his challenges as a hero quest, he is the hero in his own story, he can learn how to master adult skills. That would indeed be a great story.
If relationships to him are ultimately bottom line about how useful a person can be to him, how well they financially support and coddle him - this is something you want to steer clear of.