Kiya, I went to an AA meeting one time because she was going to give a talk. She needed transportation and I wanted to hear what she had to say.

She told me that if they asked for "my birthday", they meant when did I get sober. She advised me to lie. They feel very uncomfortable with people that aren't addicts. They'd rather you weren't there. I've never had a problem with chemical or other kind of abuse.

So, if you aren't an addict of any kind, that's why that "core person" said not to count on making friends. It wasn't about you, it was about the group.

Hope that makes you feel better.