I think that it was the way it was stated to a person who is already severely scared to reach out. We can all remember that place where we reach out scared to death and any type of negative reaction whether meant to or not can really devastate us. I think that in the future if this happens with a new member someone can easily ask a admin to put a trigger icon on it and then PM the poster saying that we had to put this trigger Icon on your post because of this....no big deal and I'm glad ur posting. Then you can explain the reasons its not a good idea to post about specifics and why it isnt. I think I PM would have been a kinder way to do this and have an admin put a trigger icon on the post. I understand where ur coming from Pink. but also I know exactly how this kind of gentle reminder in the public forum could really really hurt someone who is reaching out in that place.
I want life to feel safe again to be here. I just think that we all need to b careful of how we react to intense pain in posts because this may be the only place some of the people have to vent to ask for help and get support.
I remember once when I was new I posted something and I didn't put a trigger icon on it. The next day a trigger icon appeared on it no explanation or public embarrassment no nothing. I looked at it and said what? Then I saw that it was because my post was triggering and I didn't know at the time. I learned from something so simple and compassionate.
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