whoa! you're feeling pretty frustrated and scared, aren't you! me too...do you have a trusted pastor or counselor friend that you could get her to go with you to talk to? how about family members? sounds like she's "gone off the deep end" as my mom used to say. how scary for you! i had a friend that did the same thing years ago and i was terrified about everything you mentioned....please keep us posted and we'll help you as much as we can. Pat