Thanks for the help everyone! (and swtsandie, sorry you feel so bad, but I think you're being far too hard on yourself...sounds like you're doing a fine job with your child, despite what you think)

Just to clarify my situation, my wife is actually has a fairly well-paying job at the moment, while at the same time waiting to hear if she passed her accounting certification exam. If/when that happens, she'll be joining my here when she can find a new job. Next year I'll be starting my PhD...I go to a good school with regards to funding, so I'll have a decent scholarship no matter what happens. So we won't be rolling in dough, but we plan to rent a place instead of buying a house, so our financial situation should be workable. Plus there is a limited time frame to get this done, and my wife is really feeling like she wants to give this a go (which makes me want to as well, now that she's broached the subject). Also, hopefully when I write my dissertation I'll be spending a lot of time at home, which could cut down on daycare costs and such...crossing my fingers that the baby sleeps a lot.

skeeweka, you describe my own feelings very well going into this...it's good to know that things turned out so well for you. But yes, I will look into counselling for this...I believe my school is the place to start for that. And Rainbowzz, your point about creating a proper environment is a very good one. I'm determined to let me symptoms show as little as possible around the future little one...heck, this might turn out to be great therapy for me.

Such good advice from everyone...I'm really glad I found this forum.