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raris,
i'll try to be helpful, but middle-school is just rotten sometimes! some things to know are: everybody feels insecure in mid.school and high school - even the popular kids.
it would help to find a group activity/club and join it - it gives you a place and reason to make friends.
when you are in the halls and other places force yourself to look at people and say hi first - no matter how much that feels weird.
during these years people tend to hang in groups for protection, cliques are just a part of life at this time, so figure out which group you really "want" to be in and work to be in that group.
i can't tell you how to get in with the popular kids, i was a loner. i wouldn't kiss up to people, i just couldn't do it. you kinda have to decide what you are willing to give up to be in a group and what you are willing to do to be a part.
choose well. these years are hard, but temporary, do your best to not let the crowd squeeze you into a shallow plastic shape.
if you decide that the most important thing for you is just fitting in, then you will have to watch those groups and seek for a way to get in. it's not what i'd recommend, but we all have to find our way.
i wish i could have given you 5 easy ways to be fine in the teen years, but no such thing really exists. its just hard and you are not weirder than anyone else (ps glad you skipped that whole "we are animals" group that sounded weirder than being a trekkie was when i was in school!!!)
leslie
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