This question is being asked for those of us in a longer-standing relationship (male or female), or those who have been in one and are speaking from that perspective.

Is having good ol' sex the same as some belly-rubbing making love to you, or is it one in the same, and why?

If it's separate to you, how so? If it's the same and there is no "versus" in there, can you expand?

What is your experience?