Chrise, with myself I found that I put roadblocks up to getting close to others and letting others get close to me. I discovered that close friends are not going to come up to my door and get me, that I had to want these friends and pursue them and this means taking the time. I had to figure out why I didn't really want close friends. I found all sorts of answers for myself.

I know all sorts of moms who don't take time for themselves. This is a choice.

So you keep your history a secret from your husband? This seems like it would create distance....