Hi Lady D,

It's hard, I'm sure...

But, several questions:
1. Is your current boyfriend tending your child (the one with this old lover) with you?

2. Do you think your current boyfriend a good father?

3. Why your old lover suddenly get back to you with all seeming good changes?

3. Is he willing to have normal family life with you and the child? Did he start with this suggestion when reappeared?

4. Does your child still want him to father after all these yrs not being together (I assume she lives with you and your new boyfriend).

5. What makes him different this time, I mean not to do what he's done to you, in terms of lying and playing games?

You know, if you've really moved on with your life, why going back? I can only understand it only if it is gonna for your child's sake... or you still love him? But somehow I feel there are more conditions to attach and to clarify to this guy if you want to go back to him, above all would be one for yourself, that is do you have the belief he is gonna be right for you, for your child, for the family-to-be, for a lifelong bond....

Lady D, I feel it's very easy for us to be touched by something in our past than that we have currently or we will have in the future, we are so used to the ones in the past, feels it's easier, and hope something would be different... but as far as what I've seen, very few success. The wound you have from the past sometimes would split and begin to bleed again...

Truthfully I don't have an answer either, had gone through smiliar situation with boyfriends, I've learnt to always look forward, your destiny is in your hand, baby.....

Good luck... ((((((((((Lady D))))))))))))

Best,
Toni

[i] What our mind can conceive and believe, it will achieve.