Thanks. I guess I worded it wrong- my dad said he thought what BF said was rediculous, not what I said.

As for BF, he does seem to get rilied up personally about things that I would sidestep easily. I mean, he thinks its worth it to fight a "war of the wills" with a 9-year-old kid. [ NOT ] [/NOT] (I mean, unless its things life-threatening. Or.... yeah, my daughter can be really argumentative sometimes, but aren't all girls that age at some point? Why does he go for fights FIRST? ) He even said he forgets my kids aren't his- which doesn't make much sense. I think he makes things WORSE for himself by being so negative around them when he IS around them.

This whole issue makes me sad because he is lovely to me most of the time. If he was this way to everybody all of the time... but when we've tried going out with my kids something usually goes bad. It doesn't have to! But he gets grumpy that, for instance, my kids don't order breakfast and I let them have lunch stuff when we're out for breakfast... Uh, just stuff like that that's not worth a second glance, in my book. He's WONDERFUL to his daughters. What's the deal?? Control issues? I don't need to feel like I'm out with FOUR kids, not three, ya know?

My ears are all hot talking about this. I gotta quit.