That's the thing. He's hated his job for as long as he's had it, pretty much- as long as I've known him- but he has yet to get a new one. And this has been 3 years, so its not just the recent "economy issues". His issue with me is not having a great education, a job with lots of money, or whatever. So I dunno if he lives up to HIS version of MY potential! He HAS said, though, that "The things we don't like about others are really what we don't like about ourselves."

As far as his POTENTIAL, I dunno. He probably does not change things as much as he could, but I just let it go. I used to make suggestions, but he does not want them. You know- the old "active help vs. just hugs" thing? He gets mad at HIMSELF for not doing enough cleaning, writing, practicing guitar, riding his unicycle or whatever. I think he's too hard on himself THAT way. Sure he doesn't do a lot of them, and complains a lot, but I don't then turn around and say "Its because you're depressed. Depressed people do that. I've been depressed before...." If I try to JOKE with him about things like that, he just agrees!