hi Zig, dropping in again if its ok? control and grounded-ness are sure fine good places to visit now and again..

control is something i always seemed to need and my sense of security was directly connected to my ability to control matters...

when things began to slip from my control is when i panicked and dropped the ball..

it was so confusing, this thing called control.. i was supposed to have it some told me, others said trying to have too much control was never good..

then came that saying about having serenity and choosing what could be controlled and what could not..

i learned that trying to control others was very impossible and not recommended, so i changed my tactics for awhile and started to only try controling myself.. now that was a task!

soon tho, i realised that no matter how i tried, i couldnt control it all..

one simple thing that helped me most was my final decision that helping others was where the answers lay for me...

i could feel selfless for the first time and if i volunteered somewhere i could walk away with an all clean feeling.. i needed that...

i think i read once that you do some volunteering too?

the other part is grounded-ness.. that came after i had the clean feeling.. now its a matter of regular maintenance for me.. doing for others when able, myself when needed (and not so regular about that yet) .. a balance in ways.. i think you'll get my drift... hey, i like the mountainlion