Maymie,
First of all I disagree with your mother.
Running late is a behavior. It doesn't make you a bad person.
We all have good behaviors and bad behaviors or habits.
Being on time is a good habit to try to learn, b/c in general in society it is viewed as a positive trait.
At age 24 you don't have to tell your mother everything. It is OK not to trust her. The fact that you were able to tell her you don't trust her is awesome! It sounds like you are being healthy and breaking away from your Mom.
It sounds like your mother is having trouble letting go, and is criticizing you as a way to maintain control, which is inappropriate.
I had an over-controlling mother, who belittled me growing up. Feel free to PM me if you want.
It sounds like you are a Junior in college. Good for you! Keep going!!
EJ
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Originally Posted by maymie
Basically I feel bad. I feel like crap. My mom basically informed me that because I run late so much that I'm kind of a bad person. I know alot of people who run late who are good people. But to hear my mom say that hurts.
Then she told me that she dislikes me sometimes because I don't tell her stuff. I don't trust her and I've told her this. I've told her why I don't trust her and nothing has changed.
Then she asked me how much money I have and to be honest I just don't think its any of her business. I don't think its any of her business how much money I have. I'm 24 years old and don't think she has a right to know.
She also gets on my case about how much school I have left. I've told her countless times I have about a year and a half left and she just doesn't want to hear it. If its not what she wants to hear she could care less.
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