I don't think so nowheretorun...

To choose violence as a resource (not a response) one must first have been exposed to it as an option.

The results of that experience, as have been expressed here, fall into a continuim..the behavior is modified without long term effect on one end...the behavior continues with the added resentment of being "abused(?)" on the other...various degrees within..

For some it is an act of utter frustration,,without the benefit of calm thinking...sometimes shame can appear after the event...

For others,,it is a learned activity,,harmless in degree,,like bigotry.

For others still, it is what must be done.

I think some of us remember the effect violence had upon us and are able to put it into context. That context is able to apprise its effect upon the spanker and spankee...For some the act has lost it's value..for others it remains...

That is true for the spanker and the spankee...

My personal deepest perspective on violence is that is an act of fear. I have been afraid and I have been violent. I have never been violent without being afraid.

I am working on my fears so I am finding myself less violent.

Again,,IMHO.

Lenny