Direction...
just as your answer now would be different than five years ago... well, in short I'd say that one of these days you will answer as you would have five years ago, more the wiser and more the merrier for having been pained but learning and growing from that unfortunate experience. That's my hope for you. Wish you all the luck with love in your future.

Curley...
I'd add that ever man is different (and to Direction, too). If he's the right man for you, you'll stay with him and the both of you will make it work. If not, we all know how painful it is to separate, but we've all been through it and we've all survived.