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nonightowl · 01:41 PM

I agree with Eskielover and MyOasis in particular, about men.

It is better to be alone than be with the wrong guy; I've been with enough jerks!

Like Oasis, I met my guy online at www.match.com. It was the first time I ever went online for that! He was the only guy on there who seemed sincere. We e-mailed a month before we met in person at a coffee shop.

It's been almost 2 years now, and I've never felt so connected to someone. I'm almost 47, and had practically given up on men.

Take online dating with a grain of salt, as they can (like IRL) say anything about themselves, which may or may not be true!

What do like is how, assuming they are sincere (LOL), you can see the person's main views on stuff at a glance. Things that might take you weeks or even months to find out, like: Whether they want kids, whether they have kids, what faith they are, whether they drink or smoke, political/religious views, if they like/have pets...

Online dating was going outside my comfort zone too! Since I don't go to parties or know a lot of people, this seemed like something to at least try. I really had low expectations, not thinking anything would come of it.

I also offer you hugs

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I think the most important thing is to feel comfortable with a guy, and feel you can be yourself. I know it sounds cliched, but if you feel you have to be something you're not to keep him, it won't work! Been there, done that! Just like in the movie, I can finally "exhale." No more facades!

If you do go online, be frank about what you're looking for! Don't write what you think they want to hear, but what you want to say. If they don't like it, they are not for you.

My guy e-mailed me without even knowing what I looked like yet, as pictures require approval and a waiting period of 48 hours, I think! He liked what I WROTE. I think that action alone "spoke volumes" about him as a person. He said all the women sounded the same, and all the men too, (as he wanted to know what NOT to say, LOL, so he read men's profiles) so say what's in your heart, really.

I understand! Don't give up!