This is my first time posting. I am feeling worse than ever.

My husband and I recently split up. He is an Iraq war veteran (3 tours) who has been diagnosed with severe Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. It's been two years since he last got back. It's been a rocky two years. His PTSD, my depression and both of us were wallowing in our own things so we didn't nurture the relationship like we should have. He left at the end of August to go get some help at a VA hospital near his family and I just heard from him in the past few days. He left the program and has been camping out of his car. He hasn't talked to his family and he told his war buddies to leave him alone.

I am obviously crushed. I love him and don't want our marriage to break up. But I can see that he is very sick and that he needs help. He hasn't had a moment's rest since he got out of the Marines. So besides being devastated, I also feel guilt that I couldn't help him or "fix" him even though I tried. He says that he can't be married right now, that maybe we can work out our issues someday but he can't deal with much of anything right now. I guess I am having a lot of trouble accepting the situation. I know now that I can't put the focus on myself; it's really about him getting better. He's been through too much and can't deal with my stuff on top of that. I get it, and my heart is filled with empathy for him. However, it is so painful that I can barely stand it.

I don't know how to get through this situation.