If it's one thing I regret about bringing up my children it is sometimes that I did smack them ... I never spanked or abused them, IMO I thought I was doing the right thing at the time .... I now think very differently .... I was anxious about this whole subject and thought a lot about it .... as they grew older I used reason and communication and never hit out .... I guess I was wrong what I did and know that now .... I never did it to 'show them who was boss' or to intimidate them NEVER .... I did it because I thought they would learn from it .... I was wrong .... being the person I am today things would be different ..... thank God they didn't grow into violent people ....... Jinny xoxoxoxoxo