I have done just that. I told her that I am divorcing her, still giving her exactly the same amount I was last month and will continue to do so until the ink is on the divorce.

I also have not yelled at her since a week prior to coming here. So in that sense, I am not abusing her anymore.

She wants another chance...I told her I have given her 6 chances since I have been suspicious of her affair. I cannot give her another one. I want to so badly, but that sense of security is gone now. I do not know if she was/is dating this guy, if she has slept with him or was it just they went to the river one time? I do not know.

What scares me is that she made a comment about "the latch wasn't fully closed so I tried to break out" That comment right there tells me that the marriage cannot survive.