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Originally Posted by cantstopcrying
Because they are seeing it as controlling or manipulative. "Do this or else..." My opinion is it isn't. If she is willing to work it out, that means she will stop seeing and talking to these guys. It would be different if it were a guy she had been friends with for years and years and nothing had happened. She is a wife now, not a single woman on the town. Speaking as a female, I 100% disagree with the "abusive" label. It's not like you're saying, "If you cut your hair, you won't get any money." It's totally different. She's expecting you to support her financially when she isn't supporting you maritally (I just invented that word because I couldn't think of the word I wanted!). You have enough on your mind being over there, please don't think of yourself as an abuser because she says a therapist said you have abusive characteristics. Please stay safe.
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She claims she has stopped talking to the ones she cheated on me with, but with the news that she has a prepaid cell phone, and the fact she lied to me about it, it is very possible.
She claims she only went to the river one time with her 30 year old neighbor who "Didnt have any friends" and it was on whim.
Then there is the fact her nephew said he hasnt talked to her in a month but I got curious and looked at the phone records for the house phone and saw he had talked to her a week or so ago. The nephew also said she is dating him, but has said that before about guys when her and I broke up (round 1 as we call it) and she as like no I just hung out with him. The nephew also claims she has told him that she doesn't know if she cares for her or not and doesn't know who she wants to be with.
Both parties have lied to me, one more than the other obviously, but I cannot fully trust either.
her words of "What do you know?" haunt me bc she said that before when I found out she had a male friend in the apartment from 1130pm to 330am and lied to me about it after promising me she wouldnt have ANY guys in the apartment. I tried to gamble a lil bit and told her that somebody found out you have done somethign very dishonest and they wont tell me while I am in California bc they are worried about what I might do. The she said those words and I told her "Hell no what do I need to know?" I blacked out for about 30 minutes and all i remember is her yelling at me bc i had admitted to her that i had a private investigator on her and what i knew was that she had a guy in there during those times i mentioned.
But the other night when she said those words and I told her I wasn't playing that game again she still poked around to see what she could find out by asking me "did this just fall in your lap or did you go looking for it?" like a dummy I answered and said it just fell in my lap. She then asked if it came from somebody i knew or only sorta knew. After learning where it came from she claimed that her family crest is now broken and shattered.