Gorgeous Ghost, I also believe there is place of serenity and health when we cross over. Like you, I have lost family members and want them to have some kind of "reward" for what they endured in this realm.
Both my parents are deceased as are both my brothers. When my mother crossed over, I had a vision of one of my brothers escorting her to my father and my second brother was standing with him. My parents then began to waltz to the music they heard...
One of my brothers died from brain cancer most likely due to Agent Orange exposure. The physical remains of my other brother were left in Vietnam; his name is on the Wall.
Semper Fi!

Is it a foolish/wishful thing on my part? Perhaps. Could it be a short look-see about our spirits after they leave the body? Perhaps. It does give me comfort in many ways, anyway. It harms no one for me to feel this way...

Christmas can be a time when sick loved ones will give up. I've seen that in my nursing career. They just don't want to have another holiday where they put on that mask of bravery and so they choose to slip away...
On the other hand? Some of these folks will hang on because they want another holiday. I had one old woman tell me she wanted to see every bit of the holiday--along with whatever gifts were given to her...lol. That year her family didn't buy her anything useful, they used their imaginations and gave her some fun stuff. The best--at least to me--was a male stripper doing a modified strip! She clapped her hands in delight and grinned the whole time...that grin was still on her face when she left us.

Ain't life grand?
Cap