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(JD) · Oct 24, 2008, 08:29 AM

Hi Shangrala,

In an effort to help your thread continue on track, I'm posting.

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It is a known fact that on a daily basis our children must face much greater levels of stress than we could have even imagined when we were at that age. Isn't that alone enough to grant them with what they already have so rightly earned?

This is one area where I was wishing to read more about, opinions of members etc. So I'll say a little something.
One of this society's errant thinking is that "everyone's a winner." The forced impression that no one loses, everyone "deserves" a trophy or to feel good about him/herself no matter what (even a lack of effort) is indeed part of the growing problem. It eliminates competition to begin with, and removes ultimate goal setting. One doesn't have to think long before realizing the ramifications of such actions, or rather, inaction.
Children do have the right to be loved, listened to, share in developing their own best life. However, children -and that includes teenagers- don't know best. To give, give, give, without letting them fail at things, to evaluate their own efforts, to realize the "agony of defeat", to let them think they are the best at everything and "deserve" all the things they want, is not psychologically healthy.

Now, there is so much more to this one aspect of your OP, but maybe it will help truly ferret more really good thinking from our members here.