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Originally Posted by _Sky
Hi Shangrala,
In an effort to help your thread continue on track, I'm posting. 
This is one area where I was wishing to read more about, opinions of members etc. So I'll say a little something.
One of this society's errant thinking is that "everyone's a winner." The forced impression that no one loses, everyone "deserves" a trophy or to feel good about him/herself no matter what (even a lack of effort) is indeed part of the growing problem. It eliminates competition to begin with, and removes ultimate goal setting. One doesn't have to think long before realizing the ramifications of such actions, or rather, inaction.
Children do have the right to be loved, listened to, share in developing their own best life. However, children -and that includes teenagers- don't know best. To give, give, give, without letting them fail at things, to evaluate their own efforts, to realize the "agony of defeat", to let them think they are the best at everything and "deserve" all the things they want, is not psychologically healthy.
Now, there is so much more to this one aspect of your OP, but maybe it will help truly ferret more really good thinking from our members here.
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((((sky)))))))))))))))))))) In my eyes every child is a winner.((no one can change my mind on that)))) All children fail somewheres along the line. Its a part of life. We all mess up. But we are all still winners. We are still all worth all the love and listening ppl are willing to give...
I do think every teenager knows the "agony of defeat" I think every young child knows that. Every adult nows that feeling.
I agree giving children items to make them happy is not what does make them happy. They want our love . for us to listen to them. As we all do..
They want to know as adults we will be there for them even if they goof.....which they will do...
If you say to a child every time they come to us "wait a sec" they learn not to come to us.....
So many have been put off because life has gotten to fast for thier parents. Children and ppl Do deserve our full attention and love.........
We on the other hand as adults need to protect them as best we can.
That means with our love and understanding...........they need to be heard ..so many are hurting..............
(you matter sky)))))))))))))))))))))
They are the world..........the future.......our gifts .....our blessings......
muffy