We have been to 3 sessions with this counselor. We had started going to a different counselor, but then he had a stroke! We only had 2-3 sessions with the first guy, so we didn't get too far.

So, I brought up the issue of the infidelity. I had an affair from January - June of this year, and also had a half-dozen one-night-stands back in 2006, and one short affair in 2004.

My husband basically says that he's over it, he doesn't care, he just wants to forget about it all and move on.

The therapist agreed with him!

I just don't get it. Aren't we supposed to work through issues in therapy, not just shove them under the rug and never deal with them again? Aren't we supposed to get into WHY I cheated, and fix it so it never happens again?

The therapist just told me I need to get over my guilt, and move on.

I'm just confused.

What are we supposed to talk about in therapy, and what is the therapist supposed to help us with? I just feel like it's a huge waste of time and money.

In our session yesterday, we discussed the lack of sex. The therapist basically sent us home with a 'homework' assignment to get lucky over the weekend. Okay, fine, but how does that fix 8 years of resentment? How am I supposed to deal with all these issues? I have lived in a sexless marriage / relationship for probably 6 of the last 8-1/2 years. One weekend of sex won't fix that.

I'm so frustrated.