Thank you for all the posts. I am trying to understand why this is. Could it be because his mother and stepfather are very CRITICAL and have an emotionally withdrawn relationship with each other? I am a very affectionate and loving person, while he is not. My family is the same way, and his family is not close at all. I think that it has to do with that. His childhood. When I ask him little questions about his past, he acts all nonchalant like he grew up in the Cleaver household when I think they are the portait of dysfunction. Is there anyway I can confront him about this without it ruining the relationship? Should I just ask him to go to counseling with me?