Hey there, Multipixie people... I was sure I had written a reply to you in this thread, but I don't know what happened to it.

Don't be sorry for what you label as 'self-pity'. It is SO okay for you to want to be taken care of... and not just once, but to have people in your life who validate and care for you ALL of the time. I am so very sorry that isn't how your reality is at the moment. I know how much that hurts.

Also, I guess I want to say something like... it is so hard to heal in that kind of environment, too, when one has to struggle so hard for self acceptance, let alone acceptance from others. So hard to heal when one experiences constant invalidation. We recently went to somewhere from our past where we were validated, and being able to experience that validation and acceptance again made us realise how much we crave it... how much we NEED it. And we are thinking that maybe we need to towards getting us to live in that place again, because we are getting absolutely nowhere in our current environment. We bow to the whims of those around us, which are not in our best interests. We deny the essence of our own being because it doesn't fit into others perceptions or understanding. So... we need to find a way to get what WE need to heal. And a big part of that is experiencing validation... and acceptance... and recognition of who WE are. So that ALL of us within can experience care and love and healing.

I hope that one day we manage to find that for us... and that you manage to find that for you. Denial, rejection, abuse and suppression has gone on for far too long.

Peace to you, Pixiepeople. Please don't hurt you anymore. There's been too much hurt for far too long. It is okay to care for you and all those little ones inside now, especially as you face yet another layer of tuff stuff. Be good to you.