Silver, thank you for understanding what I'm trying to say...

I shared that with you because I've been on the same road. Forgiving beyond reason--letting things go much further than I should have because I didn't know better and I also struggled with self esteem issues.

For my own sanity and peace of mind, I had to say--to myself also--that I will no longer allow you to treat me that way.
To be honest, it scared me and it didn't feel right! I had always been the peacemaker at all cost, and it was foreign to me to stand up for myself.
I hope you understand that I'm not implying that this is what you are doing/should be doing!
It just got to be one big drag being the receptacle of other peoples' garbage...

One day at a time--ten minutes at a time if that is what feels better to you.

Cap