hi ((pixie)))
i normally dont post in this forum but ive read your responses elsewhere and you pose some very interesting questions.. i hope something i say might help and it is my sincere hope it will cause you no harm...
first, all of you together is a loving being, loved at all times by your innermost spirit...
you mention above that you need some boundaries and fences for the alters... thats hugely important right now... let your boundaries and fences be strong and impenetrable, but remember that you are the gatekeeper for each.... one fence can hold them all, maybe in separate stalls till you get them all agreeable to a few basic truths?
you are right on the mark in so many ways... put love in front of all you do and you cannot fail... (and you are very very good at it

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the kindness you have for others is an extension of the kindness you have for yourself.. what you would like to do is find a workable system that leaves you less drained each day...
we can do this by managing our inner energy flow...
you know some about meditation so you know some really good relaxation techniques..
let the less healthy thoughts leave you and allow the most healthy to come into your awareness whenever possible.. it will become a trained habit in time...
continue to help yourself with kind and loving words.... really take them in when others offer kind words to you... they are true and they are your friends...
as much as able, use your energy to think the most healthy and healing thoughts for yourself at all times... it can and does automatically flow through you to and with others.. it can have a real powerful positive effect...
be careful of becoming addicted to this new high.. it is fleeting at first, but becomes more smoothed out in time if you stay committed...
i hope you find all the answers you are looking for quickly

best always...