Mary,
You are motivated to get help for this....I can tell by the things you say and just the fact that you are posting here.
Sometimes it is necessary to take control of your treatment, and be very direct and assertive about what you need help with.
Can you tell you counselor that you need to meet more often, and that you are having this kind of trouble with eating?
Or, you could even print out your post and show it to her?
I know it is scary, but I think it would be so helpful for you if you had some support for this IRL.

kt