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mc,
sorry it took me a while to get back, my own deal heated up and got scary and now its back down level and i am SO happy that we could encourage you. i remember such a long time of totally confusing misery. yuk! i was really struck by your husband's comments about "you fighting yourselves" - i had just read something like that in an autobiography of a man who was d.i.d. this was the first time i realized that there is fighting inside all multiples because of different needs, agendas and just problems. knowing there is conflicts helps me realize that and that they can be resolved. we can come to some learned ways to cooperate for every parts benefit. NOT that i really know how to do that yet!
AHHH moments are moments of DISCOVERY. discovery will lead to RECOVERY in time if we work on our therapy and things. so now that i am dicovering about the need to cooperate in our alters systems then next i'll learn how to build in cooperation.
i was dx with d.i.d. when my kids were in elementary school. my husband refuses to believe in d.i.d. and that hurts and has slowed down my progress and help. however, i finally decided(in the last 6 months) i could start letting my alters show themselves on here and to my daughters and a few people i trusted. i lost a few trusted friends and that hurt BIG. but my daughters are sweet and supportive and folks here are really awesome too. sorry if i'm rambling. but i am happy your husband accepts your dx and that your daughters actually recognize kaylee - wow that just seems so wonderful to me. my recovery has been slowed down by my husband's resistance and you will not have that hassle. i'm not going to let my husband's flaw stop improvement for all of us.
**oh, i think your husband's idea about scheduling times for parts to come out is really great if your system of alts can learn how to work together that way. things that help ease tension and build cooperation are awesome!!!! my system is not able to schedule it like that but some people can and it helps them a lot.
this was reeeealy long, but i just wanted to encourage you to accept all the help and encouragement people offer (as long as they are healthy) because it will make it better for you and what helps you helps your whole family. if i could go back and do it differently (though we can't) i would not let people deny the truth of my struggle and pain. i would put that recovery as a high priority and i'd cut myself some real slack and stop being so darned mean to myself. if you ever want to pm i'd like that too. hugs, leslie and her pixies!
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