not sure what to do with anger.......

that's what you had at the end of your post. There are many answers to that. Finding the one that fits your system/family/circles best is another matter.

I do think that finding support groups for those with loved ones with alzheimers would help. I tend to do better when I know I'm not the only one feeling some strange way and support groups are wonderful in helping smash those feelings of being isolated and alone with this.

You're not the first person to feel as you do about this situation and you won't be the last. I have no doubt that there are ppl with similar anger issues from abuse who have loved ones facing alzheimers.

My ideas? Find support about the disease so that you can 'normalize' your feelings about what this brings up and how her disease is affecting you. And as for the anger......

I'll leave that up to you if you want to discuss some ways of handling anger. I know there are some threads on this board that broach anger and ways of managing that could be found with the search function. You could also be a bit more specific here if you wanted about what kind of anger you are feeling, how intense is it, have you experienced this type of anger before, etc.

I know that writing letters that do not get delivered or read to the person they are written for can be difficult to write but soooooooo helpful in getting the stuff out or at least moving it forward a bit.

Write a letter here to your mother about how you feel. Write it to someone trusted in PM. Write it in e-mail. Write it in huge angry letters in a notebook taking as much space per page with each angry word.

This is what happens when the cap is left off of __zh like leaving the cap off the toothpaste........I ooze out and am gloppy with my thinking

gl

with care,