First let me say Myzen, your posts are some of the most lucid and thought provoking that I see. I always enjoy them.

There are so many schools of thought on anger, and it's resolution, but I have found none to be uniformly applicable. We are all so different I suppose.

I can't remember anymore who said it, if I read it or heard it, but someone said once that anger expressed angrily begets more anger. I have found that to be true for myself. It makes sense to dissipate energy, but this pillow punching stuff seems to miss the mark for me.

For one thing, I find anger almost always to be a secondary emotion. Most often for me, anger is the mask worn by sorrow, hurt, grief and loss. Maybe it's more common with men, but it seems like there is a measure of dignity in anger that is missing from sadness.

Walking is my best discharge activity for anger. Something akin to winding a watch happens while I walk. I don't need to even contemplate the reasons, situations, feelings or any of that, just walk. Water helps, letting the cedar boughs brush against me as I walk beneath them helps. Mowing the lawn, or weeding the garden are good. Hands in dirt and all that. I can do these things "because" I'm angry, but I don't have to do them "angrily" in order for the anger to transmute. I begin to wonder if anger is real. I can't seem to affect it directly, only indirectly.

Intellectually, I'm very much sort of a backwards clown. I turn things around. I always want a new perspective. What does a thing look like backwards? When I draw a copy of a picture for example, I do a much better job of it if I turn the image I want to copy upside down. Then I have to interpret the line and curve of the thing with out the ready recognition of the "name" of each thing. Similarly, if I want to understand the nature of anger, I find much to be learned from looking at happiness. It is equally incomprehensible after all, but much more inviting to examine for one's self than anger. Niether sensation is purely rational, or even predictable in every way. Yet, we derive so much of our self perception from those two polarities.

Great post Myzen. See ya.