After years of wondering about my short fuse and sometimes notable lack of diplomacy - (usually under pressure as my own thread explains, I just now put it all down to a "state of mind" - nothing more , nothing less.

The only problem is - how to deal with one's conditions!!!

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"and the first phase anyone passes through when they come into this world is narcissim, the narcissim of king baby?..it just dont look cute on an adult....just keep on working on yourself in therapy to allow the feelings and the adult to really mature and your be fine..."

OMG - that makes such sense, never learning to mature or not having to...
But......it's still a state of mind ....... try beating it and I bet it is so difficult, especially if one does not have the will to even want to try to change.
Trouble is, that evaluation does not help the NPD person or their victims.

The first thing I would say is does the "narcissistic" poster post on here because they want help or because they want to carry on being narcissistic because it is their way.

For example, after years of ADHD symptoms and others (as per my most recent "pigeonhole" post, without meds, it will never change for me... so I would still be the add monster with snappiness...........
All I can do is rule out brain damage/traumas, health/nutrition/neurotransmitter balances/genetics first, which is what I am doing now......