I need some advice, I recently got married to a man 3 months ago in my country. I met him online and knew him for about 6 months before we got married. He was a family guy and had a great sense of humor and was attracted to him. In August,we got married in my country and when we came back to the states he suggested he lived with my family and I so that we can save up for a house. I allowed it thinking that he would help me out finacially, but he has not helped me out at all. We are going on month 4. I help my parents out with the bills and other things around the house, and he never contributes. He has a good paying job and when i ask him where his money goes he claims that they only pay him once a month and he has not received his pay yet and has been living off of his tips. Before i get any further, i should tell you about when i first got engaged to him. The entire engagement party was supposed to be 50/50 and I ended up paying everything because he claimed he didn't have the money. Also, when we went on our honey moon, i ended up paying a lot of it. Basically, he lives for free at my house ,,gets a home cooked meal, his clothes are washed and ironed and I also make him his lunch and dinner everyday. On top of that, he would like me to have a child, how can i trust this guy when he has never proved himself and also how can i bring a child into the realtionship when we are living with my PARENTS and how will he be able to take care of me,,,He has nothing saved for the future. I also asked him numerous times if he can help and he gives me 40 bucks,,,yup thats it!!!! Ever since i married him, I have been in a financial nightmare, my life only got worse. I just dont trust him. Another thing he does is have all these broken promises ,,,like tells me he will give me this and do this and go here when we never do it. He works 6 days a week sometimes 18 hours a day and has nothing to show for it. He'll come home to MY nice warm bed, find a home cooked meal and live like a KING.... My mother tells me that i must be patient and that he will start helping and to stop nagging but I cant be patient anymore. I saved myself my entire life for one special man and worked so hard for my education and my career and feel like im being used. I am depressed everyday!!! I think that he is getting spoiled at my house and asked him if we can rent and got very angry. When I tell him how i feel, how i am worried about my future with him, he tells me that all im concerned about is money and that he never met any girl who had so much anxiety as me,,,which really HURT me because he lives with family for FREE. I always thought that marriage was team work, he never tells me whats in his bank account after i asked him numerous times to get a joint account. Also, his mail doesnt come to my house, it goes to the apartment that he used to live in which is in another state,,that he is allowing his friend to rent with his name under it. How can I have trust and faith in this guy, i feel like i dont want to be with him and resent him a lot. Please help, i'm confused. Is it me or is it him.