So, I don't talk about this a lot...or at all for that matter. But I feel like sharing it today. I have a twin and do you know what the common question is that I get from people? Do you have that twin thing? You know, can you feel what she's feeling? Do you know what she's thinking? If I hit her would you feel it...I want to say no, but if you hit her don't be suprised if I hit you back. My answer to these genuine, but annoying questions is always no, which is a lie. Some of it's true, some not. I can't feel it if someone hits her, though if something terrible happened to her (G-d forbid) I would probably sense something, but thank goodness I have not had that experience and hope to NEVER have that.

The connection I have with her is unique and the questions people ask are genuine, but I feel like they wouldn't understand (if I took the time to explain it to them). And part of me feels like I don't want to let them in because it has nothing to do with them...it's about us, ya know? But they are sincere in asking nonetheless...

The connection is crazy different than the connections I have with friends. I have older sisters who are twins as well and I see that they have it, I am not sure of the extent to which they have the "twin thing" but I have seen it. With my sister and myself though..I will try to explain:

Do You Know What the Other is Thinking? : To a certain extent yes and no. I talk to her a lot. Email, texting, IMing, phone. there has been more than one occassion where we were both texting or IMing at the same time, we both hit send and get each other's text and there are variations in wording but the thought is the exact same. And its not just a simple word like "hi" its a full blown sentence, thought or opinion.

Then there are times when we are in a room with other people and if I want her attention or if she wants mine, sometimes all we have to do is think the others name...almost like calling her without saying anything at all. I usually have to do it a few times and it doesn't always work so I have to maybe add a minor gesture in with it like a wiggle of the finger or a tap of my foot on floor then I've got her attention. After I have her attention or she has mine we have these gestures, nods, pokes (if we are in the same vicinity of each other) eye/facial movements we do. I can't explain what they mean, but we know and understand what each one mean. There are even times when all we have to do is barely move our lips to say something and not have a single sound come out mouth and we know what the other is saying. I know it sounds crazy, I think it sounds crazy as I am re-reading this but it's real.

There is also this dream that we've both had (recurring). One day I was was telling her about it. She wasn't really paying attention to what I was saying and before I had the chance to finish telling her what the dream was about she looked up and finished it for me because she had the exact same one...and I mean exact to every single detail.

I don't know if I can feel what she feels. I remember when she came home one day from the eye doc and the doc told her she could no longer wear contacts, I know she was devasted, sad and I was devasted and sad for her, it really almost hurt me like the doctor had told me that I can't wear my contacts anymore.

So that is it in a nutshell. Again, I know it sounds weird almost crazy, which is why I don't like to talk about it or explain...this is actually the first time I have and I might not have done a great job doing so, but that might be because of the uniqueness of the relationship. I also that we say we don't have "twin thing" because for the most part I believed it or I just never really noticed it until I sat and really thought about the relationship I have with her...it probably sounds a bit incestuous (sp) but we are connected in ways a lot of people aren't (just like other sets of twins across the world are connected. Their experience are definitely unique to them) So I think if maybe another twin read this, maybe he or she would understand a little better.

I don't know. I tried for those who may be a bit curious about this topic. If there are any other twins out there and have their unique experience to share, please do so. I am very interested in reading about other stories.