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Old Oct 30, 2008, 04:57 PM
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I speak to you softly now with love and respect...within my words, it is my desire that you find one or two that will lead you out of this trap of anger, fear, and hopelessness you are in.

Many here have given you very good advice.
We understand that with the disappointments you have already been through that you are finding it nearly impossible to follow that advice.
Trying one more time is showing courage and taking responsibility for yourself. Only you can do this. As much as we want to help, and will continue to do what we can, the bottom line is you making the decision to love yourself enough that you try one more time.
Set aside the past and hang onto the reality that goodness will come to you--but you have to start things. There is no middle ground as much as we would like for there to be one.

You do not have to let anyone take advantage of you for any reason. As pointed out, saying No and meaning it is a valuable tool--and one that many of us use daily. A simple No will do; no explanation is necessary...even if people want one.

Please understand that you are your first and only priority right now. Others can be let back into your life later...
Taking care of yourself is not a selfish act; it does take
holding on to the support and encouragement you find here until you can add people in IRL.
Concentrate on one thing for now--which ever problem seems to be overwhelming you right now. Direct your energy at it, take baby steps if necessary, but Take Them.

Hear what we are telling you--we care and we want the best for you. Our desire for peace and happiness for you absolutely has to be a partnership...
You open your heart and accept that many of us know the pain you are feeling now--but it is you that has to take that first step.
We can be cheerleaders; you be the star.

Keep sharing, try to listen, put at least one thing into action.
It's worth it...and I believe you know this to be true.
Understand that it's "normal" to be blinded to help and solace, but you have the power to change it.

Cap
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