((((HUGS)))) to all who need this with these issues.

Unfortunately most businesses make mistakes. They aren't to be taken personally...they "just" happen. As for the family member "choosing" to have papers delivered etc on anniversaries, hmmm...maybe that is the only way she can "remember" when? Odd, but could be. Maybe she knew you would be thinking of them anyway, and if the papers came another day, it might cause you to then think? People have their own reasons. Please don't take what anyone else says or does negatively, personally. Not even here what might be misunderstood by another member....

We all grieve in our own way. The important thing is that we DO grieve. Remember that grieving is for US. The person who has passed on is not grieving, and would want us to begin to remember them for the good and fun and all that brings us happiness from their lives, just as soon as we can.

Anniversaries of all kinds brings all kinds of memories.

I replaced my melancholy for my dad on his "date" with a time of smoking his favorite brand of cigar, with my dog at my feet, outside in the shade of a palm tree (he was a nurseryman his last years, and l loved my dog.) I don't smoke, and I'm female to boot... but it brings back good thoughts. When ever I am in the neighborhood of his grave, I go over and "dance" on it a bit. (Must be the Cherokee in me...from his side.)

Please try and be easy on yourselves...grieving is a human process... and... this, too, shall pass.