Sept, you have just about outlined my desired outcome. You and your family are good role models.

I bring my own stereotypes and prejudices to bear on my self-acceptance. I have been able to transcend them in dealing with other people for years, but getting passed them for myself is irrationally difficult.

My parents were, are, prejudiced people who are intolerant of differences. They are not overtly hateful, but a fag is a fag and a ****** is a ******, etc. They "accept" them now, in their mature years, so long as they stay in their own neighborhoods. I accept my parents as they are, relics of a dying culture. I bring this background, in my unconsciousness, to the table now. What I am going through would blow their minds to know the details.

Thank you for your inspiring reply. I know I will get to that point. My therapist said just go at it easy and it will come when the time is right.

Wherever you go, there you are