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Originally Posted by earthmama
When we're sitting there waiting for them, and feeling these needs, minutes feel like DAYS.
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Yes, and as we sit the minutes start fueling and reinforcing these thoughts:
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I didn't demand him to give me unpaid email or phone time, I just asked for a session. Yeah, it's only been 28 hours since I responded, but it still feels really bad, like he's playing games with me. I'm sure he's not. It's probably just that he's forgotten I was in a needy way, and that hurts too. He's a busy guy. Just don't email me next time, T.
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We start justifying why we don't deserve to have their support, or telling ourselves that we were wrong to ask for help--being too needy, or wrong to feel hurt, or that they are lying to us about really caring.
What I find interesting about my personal response to feeling left alone is how easy it is for me to make up excuses for why I don't seem to get what I wanted. Most of my excuses some how involve making me into a villain or psychopath. Sunrise... I am glad that you seem to be beyond this stage.
Hopefully we will all get to a point when we can say
whatever and really not be hurt by their lack of response.