Hi...
I'm glad you were able to share with us, and do it with such honesty. I hope you'll find the direction you need in order to make your life better.

Frankly, I agree with Red Flags going up the more I read your post! What you are describing is not marriage, it is someone treating you like you are their property.
You have every right to get answers to your questions, be involved in any decisions, and be able to trust him.
Jmo...and truly, this is just my opinion, but I would make him leave until you are able to figure out what to do...I understand that it is your parents house, however that does not mean you should be dis-respected and your feelings not honored.

Sometimes stepping back from a situation helps us see more clearly what is going on--and it reveals what we need to do to change it.

My best wishes for you to find security...do everything you can to protect yourself financially and emotionally.
You are a worthwhile human being and deserve to be shown courtesy and respect--don't settle for anything less, please.

Cap