P7, hi...

usual disclaimers of jme/jmo ok?

Anniversaries used to be harder for me to handle with any type of ease...mine are further back in the past than yours, but this is what I learned over the years.

I stopped denying their importance to me. It was so very hard to give up being brave/understanding and allow myself to grieve and to feel my anger. Keeping it inside made me sick, and it actually made it harder to get through the memories.
Talking to trusted friends helped me, as did talking to myself(!) Talking about it took away some of its power over me...
Personally? If you can get out of being where it is bothering you so much--stay away. Period. Workplace? Get a 24 hour virus. Home? 24 hour virus that would allow you to avoid being around those who where/are part of it.
No where is it written in stone that we have to tough out these things! God, but we can be so hard on ourselves when it comes to these things! Along with other things, too.
It's very hard to be kind to ourselves, isn't it?

Do whatever you need to do to get by this anniversary in the way that is best For You. You...

Cap