THE very first step is to RECOGNIZE that you are doing these things! When you make a statement and you can stop yourself and think about it ... and place it into one of those categories THEN you are on the road to countering the incorrect statement, not "just" for the other but for yourself!

TRY and accept the compliment, septembermorn, as plain and simply A COMPLIMENT. Don't ascribe any level of meaning, not any degree of sincerity, no reasoning: so and so said such and such about/to me! (meaning something positive.) THEN when you can accept that basic, TRY and then add, and that is a good thing, or, that makes me feel better (even though you might not FEEL too much.) Or even, how sweet/nice/good of so and so for saying such a nice thing!

If nothing else, it removes the negativity we tell ourselves automatically when we hear a compliment. Hey, it's THEIR compliment, leave it alone- don't adjust it - and take it!

I'm NOT a pro on this yet... but I am in the thick of CBT!