thanks rhap. i think it kinda clicked though with him. the other day we fell asleep and ended up taking like an hour nap. i woke up and saw the time and said i was going home and i guess i woke him up wrong and he got in one of those moods and started going off on something stupid. so i told him i didnt deserve to be talked to that way and left. i didnt even make it home before he apologized over the phone and said he knows he does that to me sometimes. so i think he kinda saw that i wasnt going to just take it like i did the other times. which is partially my fault because i allowed it to happen. this time i just got up and left and he saw that what he did hurt my feelings and said that he understands that he goes off for no reason sometimes. so i guess all i can ask for right now is that he sees it. i saw that he didnt like how he acted and i think hes trying to work on it.

thanks again rhap.